Here we are and it is May.  This is one of the busiest times of year for family lawyers after Christmas.  Our practice is consumed by parents who are wrapped up in conflict over who should have what time if at all during the summer holidays - what this time should look like - one week?  two weeks?  each one month? and where are the children going to school in the fall.

To add to all of this, the courts are exceedingly busy and preparing for summer recess.  Everybody wants their day in court and those days are numbered.

This is also by happy coincidence one of the times of year that children look forward to the most.  Do you not recall being in school and counting down the days to summer holidays - to when you could sleep in; play with your friends; ride your bike; go to the lake?  Fewer responsibilities.  A happier, easier time of year.

It is critical that as parents, we remember this.  That we do not make this time of year a time of conflict.  That the summer memories we build are of campfires and picnics in the park; playing in the lake and in sprinklers; popsicles and slurpees.  Children have approximately 12 summers during their childhood that they will actually recall.  Of those 12 summers they will spend 3 working having taken on their first summer jobs to earn money for shopping, movies and hanging with their friends.

The time they have, the time we have is precious.  Build memories.  Not conflict.

Dr. Warshak has posted an interesting blog on preparing your child for summer when you and your partner have separated.  There is an accompanying video.  Take the time to educate yourself and make every effort to make this summer enjoyable for you and your family.  Remember the goal should be to restructure not to segregate or take apart your family.